In this day and age, I firmly think that nobody should ever feel insecure in a relationship since we live in a culture where self-love should be the norm. Nowadays, the main objective is to be oneself and embrace yourself for who one is, how one looks, and what one has to give. I adore the way walls are falling down as individuals accept many types of beauty, feel at ease with their sexuality, and pursue their ambitions. Yet, what happens when a person joins a relationship and starts to experience the “green eyes monster,” which makes them feel unworthy of love and inferior to others. What if the uncertainty of being in a relationship keeps them up at night because you believe your partner has little interest in you, leading you to believe they are looking for excitement in someone else? If this is the case, you might lose sleep and become stressed out thinking about the person you believe they are cheating on you with. Or perhaps you argue with your spouse because they don’t act the same way they did when you first met them or because a text comes into their phone. I’m here to tell you that insecurity always starts with you and never with anyone else. Personally, I don’t believe it’s acceptable when someone starts a relationship and is completely satisfied with themselves since all that will happen is for them to start blaming their partner for their flaws, which will only lead to further conflict. Thus, here are a few strategies you might employ to get over relationship uneasiness.
If you are having self-esteem problems, avoid getting into relationships.
If you don’t like who you are as a person or what you see in the mirror, keep to yourself and concentrate on developing a relationship with yourself. Many times, people are anxious to find a partner because of what they were taught as children, but the fact is that self-love is now the main objective instead of relationships. Nothing in a relationship that you enter while having poor self-esteem can make you happy. When all you can perceive is flaws within yourself, you will find a flaw in everything your spouse does. Thus, if you’re single, my advice is to focus on yourself until you develop an unwavering love for yourself.
If you have suspicions that your partner is cheating, end the relationship.
Undoubtedly, intuition serves as your guide for anything that cannot be seen, therefore if you have any reason to suspect that your partner is cheating on you and it is making you feel uneasy, end the relationship. No matter how long you’ve been together—10 days or ten years—if someone wants to cheat, there is nothing you can do to stop them. If someone wants to sneak around, having a big vocal argument will not stop them. The best course of action is to remember who you are and end the connection if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Keep in mind your positive attributes.
When things are going well in your relationship but you still feel unworthy of being with your partner, I advise you to keep in mind what makes you, you. Consider all the wonderful things you bring to the table and how wonderful it is to be in your company. Consider your physical attributes first, followed by your character features, before thinking about anything else about yourself. No one is perfect, and we all have areas to improve, so if you feel that your contribution to the relationship is inadequate, you should leave and focus on improving yourself instead.
Quit worrying about the future and concentrate on the here and now
People frequently worry about where they will be in a relationship with their spouse in the next five to 10 years, despite the fact that nobody can predict what the future holds. Focus on the now and love with intention rather than stressing about having their child, when they will propose, or anything else significant. Sometimes, when we make future plans too soon in a relationship, we end up ruining it out of desperation, which makes us feel worried and uncomfortable. Thus, accept your relationship as it is and love slowly to overcome whatever insecurities you may be feeling.
Don’t pay attention to any negative thoughts that come to mind.
It’s common for people to occasionally have bad ideas, but what happens when those negative thoughts take control of your life and lead you to believe things that are false? What do you do when those negative thoughts are fabricating stories for you to believe just so you may sabotage a lovely relationship that the universe has given you? Don’t trust any negative ideas that you have since they are nothing more than happiness destroyers that arise from bad energy. Thus, resist the urge to believe any negative thoughts you may have about your connection since doing so will only serve to sever it. Try thinking about potter things you love about your relationship which will help the bad thoughts go.
Make sure you pick the proper partner.
It is crucial to start dating someone who wants to be with you and views you as the light of the world because you know you have someone unique when you date someone who wants to be with you. Avoid pursuing individuals who find you dull and are not attracted to you because if you do, you will be following them for the rest of your life. Hence, when you eventually catch them, you’ll put a lot of effort into the relationship even if your partner doesn’t seem to value it, and none of it will make you feel uneasy. Make sure you are dating someone who sees you as the person of their dreams, someone with whom you get along well, and with whom you have a lot of chemistry.