Have you ever run away from people or situations that made you uncomfortable to avoid having to face your fears. I remember a time when I was always trying to avoid confrontations because I was too terrified to speak up for myself for fear of conflict and hurting other people. Back then, I ran. I mean, when I was a track star, I would flee from jobs where I felt threatened and afraid, I would flee from individuals who had hurt me and to whom I was afraid to stand up, and I would flee from my goals and dreams when I was almost finished achieving them and could see them right around the corner. I grew weary of hiding from my problems and dread because I knew that if I didn’t face them when I was older, it would mean the end of my entire existence. Therefore, after an awakening, I promised myself that I would no longer allow fear to rule my life since the last thing I wanted to do was to end up regretting anything. I understood that I would have to confront my concerns, remain unafraid of conflict, and truly love myself without regard to anybody else’s sentiments, insensitivity, or need for acceptance. When I put my foot down and stopped being terrified, I used several methods in my life. I stopped letting fear control my life. The only time I ever allowed dread into my life was when it warned me of danger, but other than that, I didn’t let it tell me I wasn’t good enough or that I should run away. And every time I fled from what I was terrified of, I encountered it again in a new job or in a new circumstance. It gave me the warning that if I don’t confront my concerns, I’ll always be dealing with the same problems that I needed to learn from. I don’t want you to experience it. In order to live the life of your dreams, I want you to confront whatever it is that you’re afraid of. Hence, in order to help you stop fleeing from your anxieties, here are a few suggestions you may put into practice.
List all the things you are terrified of.
Knowing your fears allows you to work on them. For example, if public speaking is something you struggle with, practice it in front of family or friends. Instead, if you are hesitant to defend yourself, you should practice loving yourself more and developing your self-assurance so that you can respond to comments with one or two sentences that let the perpetrator know you are not someone to mess with. Take down all of your concerns and make them a habit by tackling them one at a time. This will help you deal with your anxieties when they arise in a mature manner.
Recognize that avoiding your worries is a temporary solution.
When you avoid the people and things you are frightened of, you may feel happy that you don’t have to deal with them right then and there, but eventually you will start to feel bad. Guilt will set in because the part of you that isn’t frightened says” it would have taken you a few days or a few weeks to face your anxieties, but regardless of the result, you would have come out on top”. Recognize that running is merely a short-term solution that can only temporarily reduce your anxiety, but you will eventually have to deal with them. I know this is difficult, but if you encounter something that makes your knees shake and your heart race, don’t run—you’ll feel courageous in the end.
Avoid letting fear consume you.
Whenever you find yourself in a scary circumstance, resist the urge to let fear rule your life. Always keep in mind that you are in charge and that fear is merely a little 1% of fake experiences that seem genuine. Avoid being afraid unless you are in danger because fear urges you to give up on living your life and achieving your objectives. The next time, resist the need to flee from your fear and face it head-on because, if you don’t, it will consume you, dictate your actions, and leave you haunted by regret.
Speak with a licensed therapist.
If you are having trouble facing your anxieties and just believe you cannot do it because you are afraid of being humiliated and verbally abused. Then, I advise getting expert assistance. A therapist will assist you by equipping you with the necessary skills to help you face your fears and by delving deeply into your past to gain a deeper understanding of what transpired as a kid to cause your worries.
In summary We all experience fear while doing new things, meeting someone for the first time, or even when we are in danger. Yet, fear becomes a problem when it causes us to go off course from our objectives. We are all humans competing in the same quest to live long, happy, healthy lives, therefore there is no need to fear anyone one or anything. I challenge you to stop living in fear and to just keep it in your back pocket as protection against harm. Keep in mind, though, that everything you’ve ever desired is just on the other side of fear.
